I am a gay guy who is heading rapidly into midlife, trying to make sense of this mad, wonderful, frightening, and difficult world.

To describe me, that is always best left to ones friends and work colleagues, though I do feel family is the one set of people who truly understand and know you. Of my family, I'd say they describe me as, cuddly, funny, daft, silly, lazy, clever, and above all annoying. Though these are traits I'm working hard to improve.

I enjoy a good and healthy dose of Science Fiction throughout my daily life. I find nothing better to help explain people's foibles if seen through the prism of Doctor Who or Star Trek. A man in his 40's still showing, let alone admitting, to an active interest in such childish passions is seemingly unsuitable for one to be a decent person in today's society, you may cry. And in many respects that is a correct assumption, though may I clarify the situation with a small proviso: Life is damned hard and whatever gets you through this slog of the single life you have, take it and embrace it, make it your own and celebrate the pleasure and affirmation it can bring you. No bugger else will.