Homework Group

Should I help my child with his/her homework?

Homework is never easy and there are several things to consider before doing it.

Relationships within the family

How many family quarrels and fights are caused by studies. The problem is especially true for parents of teenagers. Puberty is already difficult, and the topic of grades and lessons can only make it worse. Psychologists remind you that school is just one phase of a child's life. And it shouldn't come between you. And if you decide to go down the road of learning lessons together, your relationship with your child can be damaged.

For one thing, it's a rare parent who can patiently teach lessons with their child for a long time and praise them. As a rule, sooner or later parents get annoyed and angry.

Secondly, total control often replaces simple communication. All conversations with a child are reduced to school, and there is simply not enough time to find out how he spent the day, how he felt, what he was worried about. This is how the connection with the child is lost - the child starts to think that apart from their school performance, their parents are not interested in anything.

If your child cannot cope with lessons on their own, try to work out what the reason is. It may be a psychological problem or it may be a health problem. According to doctors, vasoconstriction can affect your child's ability to learn. When the brain is active, it simply lacks oxygen, which slows down its work and thought processes. Nutritional deficiencies, reduced endocrine gland function or reduced thyroid function may also affect a child's ability to learn. It turns out that laziness or unwillingness to learn can sometimes be just a protective barrier to the body.

How can you find the right balance?

In order not to spoil your relationship with your child, and at the same time not to neglect your studies, it is important to follow some rules.

1) Don't forget that learning is your child's responsibility. In your first year of school you should do everything you can for your child to manage their homework independently. The only exception is when your child asks for help. The school often assigns tasks that cannot be done without parental help.

2) Teach your child to plan and organise their time. Make a schedule of when he has to do his homework. You may even set an alarm clock. This will discipline your child and he will get used to doing everything on his own at a fixed time.