Someone once asked me to describe myself in one word. I was stumped. And looking back on my answer I am mortified, but that is neither here nor there. Now, a couple years later, I am quite happy that I simply can not pick one word to describe myself. That would be too simple. I am much more complex than that. We all are. I can not describe any female in my life with one word. Friend, sister, mother, healer, crazed, amazing, wanderlust, homebody, girlfriend, wife, happy, depressed.....we as females can be all of these things on any given day. And I am proud of any of these words that I CHOOSE to be. I am not a word that has anything to do with the way I look, how much I weigh, how much money I spend on my clothes or how much money I make. I am many more layers than that.

But who am I? Who is this chick trying to change the way the world views what we women want to read about and look at while we scroll through pages. My name is Jan. I am 33 years old. I am in a loving and committed relationship to someone who is much more than my best friend. I am a mother of a daughter and pregnant with a son. I have four dogs and three fish. I LOVE to dance. I am in love with my family. My friends are my chosen family who mean the world to me. My first job was babysitting. Then a hostess. Then waitress. Then I was a hairstylist for 10 years. I started a pet sitting/dog walking company after I retired from hair simply because I think animals are awesome. I am a dreamer. I believe you can really do anything you want if you work hard enough. I have made a lot of money and I have gone broke over medical bills. I have shopped at thrift stores because I had too. I have shopped at thrift stores because I wanted too. I have very strong political views. I oddly find beauty in every person I meet, even if they screw me over. I like kissing. I LOVE sex. I think jealously over past relationships is silly. I believe as a woman choosing to have sex with someone and then NOT building a relationship out of it is TOTALLY ok. I applaud a safe, consensual, non cheating one night stand. I do think cheating is disgusting. I believe daily spiritual check ins and growth make us better, more accepting humans. I