A 30-something (still, just) who never wanted children, now married to a man with a whirling-dervish-of-energy daughter. It turns out I have very definite views on parenting and very strong opinions on boundaries with the Ex-Wife. I am not a 'Stepmother'. Whirling Dervish has a Mother, but, as was pointed out to be by Wise Best Friend, I will, in some way, be parenting.