"if you cannot explain it simply, you do not understand it well enough" ~einstein The addiction model starts with “we admitted we were powerless.” The therapy model starts with “you’re responsible for your choices; I wonder why you keep doing what gives you what you say you don’t want?” ~Marty Klein "Be regular and orderly in your life so that you may be violent and original in your work."-Gustave Flaubert "Songs are pretty easy. They are small, they are modular, they are about as big as a bagel. They are easy to build. Films are overwhelming in their magnitude and scope. By comparison, a lot of film directors wish they were writing songs because you can do it while getting your hair cut".--tom waits (interview in pitchfork) "Loving a man with no drama. Nothing compares." --Nora Kostelnik 'some people are so open minded their brains fall out' --rick warren "The gap between your expectations and reality is your suffering." -John St. Augustine "If your everyday practice is to open to all your emotions, to all the people you meet, to all the situations you encounter without closing down, trusting that you can do that, then that will take you as far as you can go. And then you will understand all the teachings that anyone has ever taught." ~Pema Chodron 'alanon is for folks like me who love to pretend that our partners, and not our (martyr) selves are addicts too.' ~nora kostelnik