Sir Jay

Personal Trainer in Indonesia

Good day readers,

This page is an extended bio belong to Jay. He prefers to write about himself in the third person.

In BDSM Lifestyle

He was introduced to the lifestyle by the early of 2012 as one of his good vanilla friends told him that she was a Domme and she was generous enough to explain things that sounded dazzling at this time. She was the first one who told him that his way of thinking, creativity and character enables him to be a good Master one day.

This made him glad to mentor his close friends only. He quite enjoy those non-sexual based relations and he consider it pure love and true friendship.

He is an old-school and a demisexual so definitely shallow relations are not for him, with all his respect to others' various needs. Casual relationships do not interest him at all. That’s what professionals (service Tops and Findommes (money for time to imitate power exchange relationship).

But as a non-pro, if he don’t get reciprocity out of doing it, they’re done.When he find someone who wants to make him submit to their silly rules without respecting him. That is considered a clear indication of topping from the bottom.

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He apply "The Ten Commandments of Kink.":

  1. All activity must be safe (we do not cause true harm), sane (we only engage in activity when we are clear of mind), and consensual.
  2. We must always be respectful of our partner’s safe word (red, yellow, or green), and his or her hard limits.
  3. We must only enter into activities after we have gained trust, education, and an open mind.
  4. We must always be polite and ask questions.
  5. We must not touch anyone else’s equipment without permission.
  6. We must always be clean, hygienic, and mindful of our own equipment.
  7. We must always be mindful of aftercare.
  8. We must not engage in humiliating and degrading scenes solely for our own amusement.
  9. We must always protect each other's anonymity from the harsh eyes of the "vanilla" world.
  10. Most importantly, we do not forget to have a good time!

SSC - Safe, Sane & Consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
PRICK! - Personal Responsability Informed Consensual Kink
CCC - Committed Compassionate Consent
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