theboyfriend

Dating a guy who is in the closet is a field bristling with bear traps.

It's a story told over and over. You're madly in love. You want to show off your new man, climb to the highest peak and scream his name with joy, and go down on one knee without a dirty thought in your mind. But there's a catch. He's just not ready to conquer his fear of the world finally discovering his big secret.

Step inside that closet with him, and love is all you need. Step outside, and he avoids your eye, and introduces you as a friend.

You find yourself wishing he could fling wide the closet door and burst out in a cloud of rainbow flags and glitter... Ok, maybe not. Nevertheless, he struggles every day with a fear that you know has no place running his life.

The bf is inspired first by the desire for recognition of love that is precious regardless whether your bits match your partners, and of one simple fact – he's your boyfriend; and second, by a wish for acceptance. For anyone to live in fear because he or she loves another is simple insanity.

Right now, he's too afraid to allow you to check in with him, so check in with the bf. Tag the bf in your status updates, and, if you're feeling cheeky, your photos.

Tell the world you are not afraid, and you are proud to be out. Tell him, along with everyone else who tags the bf, he doesn't need to live in fear.