tosilesi

Hey Folks,

I started this blog out the realization that there aren't too many sites dedicated to answering the questions and dealing with the frustrations single dads have after being thrown into the legal system for child support and visitation. Too many of us are left to learn it fast and hard, but nonetheless eventually becoming experts at it.

I myself have a beautiful 3 year old girl whom I love dearly but rarely get to see unfortunately. Since the time she was born (even before) I have been there for her financially, physically, emotionally, you name it. I realized a couple of months into the pregnancy that this was not the woman for me to be with but vowed to stick around for my daughter. I even (out of much stupidity) asked this woman to marry me because I could not bear the idea of not being around my soon-to-be here child. I guess you could say I fell in love with the idea of being a dad. In the long run (and fortunately so) I did not wed baby momma as I shortly realized that I would rather be alone than be unhappy and did not want to follow in the footsteps of mom and dad who stuck around in a unhappy marriage just for their children sake. While noble, it just wasn't for me.

Life 5 months after my daughter’s birth was hell in the scope of being a dad to her. I found myself in courts, getting arrested, and having my name drug all thru the mud only to have everything dismissed. I had to fight for everything. For any and all time with her. For visitation. For telephone time now that she's a lil older. Earlier this year she decided it was best to move over 500 miles away to be closer to her family and I was left to deal with the fact that instead of every other weekend with my daughter it would be every other Winter holiday, birthdays, and 2 weeks of Summer. I file show causes, I take her back to court, I show the judge what she's doing but what's the point. After all, that's her domain.

So I decided to play in mine which is that of positivity, sound mind, and recognizing the universal truths in all things. If you've noticed I haven't spent a lot of time explaining the details of what was done to me but let’s just say a person with less clear analysis would be in jail right now no questions asked. I know because I have friends who are sadly. It is my intention to in